Practical Practices: Command Respect and Offer It in Return

“Can’t command respect unless you act like you deserve it.” Jenn Bennett

Let us begin with the assumption that you are an upstanding human, who aims to do well, both by others and yourself. Under these terms, it is fair to say that you do your best to treat others in a way that you, yourself, would like to be treated. Respect is earned, not given. When you hold people accountable and carry yourself in a way that commands respect, than you will either attract it naturally, or let people know that you will except nothing less.

If you allow people to disrespect you, then they will continue to do so. For example, if you allow someone to interrupt you while you are speaking, they will do it again in the same conversation or future ones. Instead, you should remind them that you were speaking, and you would appreciate it if they did not interrupt you again. You have now set clear expectations with that person moving forwards which is important. In the same regard, you must then listen and not interrupt them while they are speaking, in order to establish a sense of mutual respect.

Mutual respect is the foundation of any authentic, and meaningful relationship. Once established, it lays the groundwork for healthy boundaries, equal reciprocation of one another’s time and energy, and a general understanding of expectations between both parties. Respect can be shared and honored with those you have just met as well. When you first meet a person, they have no background information, or context to judge your character, outside of your appearance, how you carry yourself, and your initial interaction with them. This is a crucial time, especially if this is a colleague, or someone you will have future interactions with, as you are setting your standards for the relationship. Being your authentic self from the beginning is very important, as it helps you to develop relationships with people that see you and accept you for who you are and what you aspire to be.

People who continue to cross your boundaries, and disrespect you despite your clear expectations, do not deserve your time and energy. You do not need to respond with disrespect yourself; you can simply choose to disengage and spend time with individuals that honor and value your presence. At the end of the day, it is not the quantity, but the quality of relationships in your life that matters, and there is no more important of one than your relationship with yourself. Learn to be happy on your own and surround yourself with people that respect you.

There are so many things in this world that are out of our control. How you carry yourself, what words come out of your mouth, and what you accept from others is within your control. The quicker you learn this, the better off you will be moving forwards. I hoped you enjoyed this post. As always, take care, God bless, and be well.

Written By: Man With A Plan aka Jeffrey Kalinoski